How to Cure Depression

Did you know that October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month? If you follow us on social media (@wildflowerwishco on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and Pinterest), you probably saw my post about it. If you don't follow us (then you really should!), I'll tell you a little bit about it and why it's so important to me.


My husband and I will have been married for two years this December (I just love a Christmas wedding, don't you?!) During our first year of marriage, we suffered three miscarriages, one around four weeks, another around six weeks, and the last around ten weeks. Since then, we have been battling infertility.


Since I was a little girl, my heart's desire has been to be a mother, so to have that desire denied me has been very difficult. Following the last miscarriage, I fell into a deep depression for several months, and you know what I've come to find as a cure for depression? Focusing on others.


... you know what I've come to find as a cure for depression? Focusing on others.

It's like when you use a magnifying glass–the longer you focus on the object, the more things you start to notice about it. With depression, the more you focus on how depressed you feel, the more things you notice that depress you. It's a vicious cycle that seems to have no end.


But when you take your eyes off of yourself and put them on the people around you, you know what you'll see? Hurting people–lots of them–just like you. You see this world is cursed by sin (thanks Adam and Eve) and because of that, it is a broken place marked by grief and sorrow and death.


But you know what God can do? He can breathe life into dead things and hope and beauty into broken things.


But you know what God can do?He can breathe life into dead things and hope and beauty into broken things.

The miscarriages and infertility are part of my story now–I can't erase them from it. So I can choose to close the storybook of my life and put in on the shelf because of a couple bad chapters or I can choose to allow others to read those chapters and find help, encouragement, and hope from them.


I can choose to close the storybook of my life and put in on the shelf because of a couple bad chapters or I can choose to allow others to read those chapters and find help, encouragement, and hope from them.

Several months ago, I was listening to a podcast about dealing with loss and infertility when they began talking about a faith-based fertility group called Moms in the Making (Wildflower Wish Co. is actually donating a percentage of all profits this month to them in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness). Joining them has been such a joy—but probably not for the reason you think. It’s not because they have been a blessing and encouragement to me, but rather because they allow me to be a blessing and encouragement to others.





See these four cards in my hand? Tomorrow, they’ll be mailed out all over the US to women who have recently experienced a miscarriage. Moms in the Making sends me an email each week with new names to write a card to, telling them I’m praying for them, giving them a scripture, and offering some hope and encouragement. While receiving these emails each week makes my heart sad because I feel the hurt these ladies are experiencing, it also gives me some joy in knowing that because of what I’ve been through, I can now shine my light a little brighter for someone else.


... because of what I've been through, I can now shine my light a little brighter for someone else.

I don't know what hard thing you're facing right now, but I do know this, that hard thing will only be harder if you choose to wallow in self-pity over it. But if you choose to reach out to someone around you, offer them a smile, an encouraging word, a compliment, it will make that hard thing a little less hard.


Try it, and see for yourself.


May all your weeds be wildflowers,


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